Norton Versus Wife

LOL phil that's about as bad and good as it gets at once. Perfect example that's taught me when going through the worse possible scenario to just hang on till later I thank g-d it turned out that way. Some gals make their men sit down to pee, sheeze. I did too much shit plumbing as a teen so pushing turds out the way to keep digging as was lessor to suffer than facing my dad punishment. Hehe I once had a JFK type wood rocking chair I lived in going through years of school studying - till a licensed marriage break up the ex- made sure it did too, thank goodness w/o me in it.

In any situation involving people there is always the conundrum of 'democracy and control'. Everyone has their own personal sovereignty, and you can either choose to respect it or become a control freak. I believe the biggest marital problems come from the parents. My wife kisses her father and obviously loves him dearly. My ex was abused by her father as a kid, and we always had severe communication problems - no issue was ever resolved. I sometimes have awful fights with my wife, however I must be sick - after our issue is resolved, I feel secure and I love her more for caring that much. My bikes are never an issue, she knows I am passionate about them and she is glad that I have that in my life. My ex could not have cared if I crashed and died while racing - she might have missed the pay packet, however not much else.
There is an old saying - 'when buying a cow, always look at the mother'.

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Ugh Alan you touch on a very severe and too common issue of prior home and boyfriend abuse before you got involved. Scriptures say the sins of the father can go on for 3-4 generations. I get too many stories of this as a Dr. shocked and sickened by the various types of abuse sexual to drugs to satanic rituals, ugh.
My first adult partner from high school romance was prior damaged by her mother, who further helped crack in half telling her daughter if she REALLY loved her mother she'd not get involved with em, till daugher hospitalized uncommunicative after subside attempt, til her mother came begging to me to save the daughter which I did while almost cracking me in half too. This gal got a lot better after that but it had killed off the part that loved me so eventually I successfully committed suicide on 1st time ever LSD experience with big over doses spread out over a full weekend. That was during daze of the P!! dragster mind blowing accelerator my father was trying to force me to sell to stay in college threat. Anywho have been through a handfull of soul mates since then till fate and some more chance taking ended up pretty settled happy it all worked out like it did.

Oh yeah I did avoid showing Alicia couple nights ago the label on kitchen counter I'd made on the Cerro alloy storage jar as warning "Toxic Metal"...

acotrel said:

Getting divorced can be expensive if you get silly and fight - the lawyers win. When I split with my ex, I had come home from work one day and she said 'I think I want a divorce'. I immediately said 'you've got it'. So we sat down and split everything right down the middle - house, furniture, superannuation, savings - everything. No lawyers involved. Three months later I woke up in my new town house wondering what the strange feeling was that I had. I WAS HAPPY !

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We divorced so easily. Just before my birthday in '13 see told me she wanted a divorce. It was a long time coming so I wasn't too surprised.
We short sold our 3800 sq ft home on a golf course for $400k less than we bought it. No more HOA's, fee's and ridiculous taxes.
We had 2 other homes that we rented. I took one and she took the other. She filled out all the legal papers for the divorce, paid all the fees and 6 month later the divorce was final.
No one cried. My kids are happier as I am too.
Bottom line, I am saving about 5k a month, no one to tell me to pick up underware or change my shirt or come out of the shop.
Any other needs I have can now be purchased.
Life is good.

BB King, ( and others) sang, "it's cheaper to keep her"................but then again, sometimes it's worth the price!

Mick

Many years ago, in the earlier days of what proved to be a ten year "horror movie" marriage, my then wife had a simple formula which she applied to everything I bought. What ever it cost, she was allowed to spend triple of my money on anything she wanted.

One day my mate Pete offered to build me a Commando. We calculated it out as going to cost around $12000. My wife got wind of it (she was extremely good at eve's dropping, and the three times table) and said fine, that will equal a swimming pool for me.

That was a very very expensive Commando! But it was a beautiful bike which nearly survived the full length of a miserable and unhappy marriage.

Also around that time, I received a phone call from an insurance company who were apparently selling insurance to cover the sudden loss of your spouse due death. My mind began to race with excitement!

Do you have children sir?
I certainly do.
Do you know the cost of employing a full time nanny come house manager should your wife suddenly die?
Now I'm really getting interested!
I have no idea what it would cost, how much?
Sir, it could cost you as much as $40,000 per annum!!
I was incredulous, Where the hell would I get one? I demanded to know.
I beg your pardon sir?
I said where the hell do I get one?? And who kills the wife??
This bitch is currently costing me twice that!!
The insurance man excused himself and hung up, pity that, he was about to save me a lot of money!!
Pete could have built me another three Nortons, per year, and I would still be in front!

commando6868 said:

BB King, ( and others) sang, "it's cheaper to keep her"................but then again, sometimes it's worth the price!

Mick

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It depends on what she is doing to your internals with the stress she causes. My divorce too half of everything, and I then had the magic double by-pass operation and another to clear my carotid artery after three strokes - all due to high cholesterol caused by adrenalin/anxiety. Now I'm brand new again and life is excellent, except that I cannot afford to race much.
Looking back, the advice I'd give is, if you are not getting a fair deal - zero tolerance for idiots. I waited until my daughter turned 16 - too late ! I'm left with a lot of anger which I am unable to express. What a bloody waste of good time ?