Before you throw in the towel, eliminate all the non-iso issues that can cause vibration. 3000rpm and up is when the vibe's are supposed to clear up.
Make sure nothing is hitting. I've seen lots of primary covers with dents worn into them.
Make sure nothing is loose. Side and centerstands can do it.
Check the swingarm for slack. If you roll on the gas or back off at 3-4thou does the vibration change?
For iso problems, you mentioned that you would 'back off' the front. Do you have a set of MkIII verniers? The rubber in them is said to be stiffer than the old parts. How old are the iso rubbers? What clearances are you set at now?
It's pretty hard to describe the benefit of using a link style headsteady. I put 50,000mi on my bike with a Norvil iso headsteady. Great handling but the vibes never completely cleared up. I went to a link type headstedy last year, now I have the best of both worlds. As long as there isn't a problem in some other area causing vibration, a link headsteady, Hemmings adjusters, and old style rubber iso's are about as easy as it gets to setup and get what you expect from the Isolastic marvel.