Yellow Cad, if you bought your stand used, does it have the usual foot lever welded to the base of the left foot of the stand, and is it intact? Send a photo if this would help. And is it at the right angle? When you put your weight on the foot lever, as you are pulling on the bars and the underside of the frame rail, it should help you hoist the thing onto the stand. I lent my bike to a friend who somehow managed to bend it. Until I straightened it to its correct angle, it was a pig to get on the stand. The tip of the foot lever should not be touching the ground when the bike is on the stand. That could be your problem — if everything else is as it should be.
Also, is the centre stand spring correct, or is it being stretched too much when the stand is extended? Get a friend to lift the back of the bike by an inch or so, and see how easy it is to extend the stand. You mention a pivot pin. On my 850 Mark 1, there are two pivots which fit into either side of the cradle, and if I remember correctly, each pivot is stepped so that it fits into the eye of the stand (larger diameter), and then into the cradle (smaller diameter). If the pivot bolt is a sloppy fit in the cradle, it won't help. I presume the feet of your stand are still 'semi-circular'?