Dave, I'm looking at the Norton parts book exploded diagram and the numbers are different than those that you quote, however I'm sure we are looking at the same diagram and it is a bit ambiguous. In the one I have the 2 plates and 2 gaskets are to the left of the page and show them all close to each other, there is then a small gap and the washer in question and then another gap and the rocker. What it doesn't show clearly is which bits are inside the head casting and which bits are outside. For clarification the hole in the thrust washer you are concerned about is the same diameter as the outer diameter of the shaft ie. it can slip over it, so you can see that it would be ineffective as a thrust washer on the end of the shaft, it is however effective as a thrust washer on the sides of the rockers. The rocker shaft is immobile in the head, but the rocker rotates around it. The washer protects the rocker to head interface inside the head otherwise with hard iron rubbing into alloy you can imagine the rapid wear that would result.
The short answer to your problem is that you have no problem, there is no thrust washer missing from the outside of the shaft and you can go ahead and reassemble as you found it, when the plates return from chrome plating.