I am currently bringing-up 3 step grand daughters. I love shaping the way they think. I teach them to work as a team and not compete among themselves. Our world is changing, and the old mum, dad, 3 kids and the white picket fence have gone forever. If kids work together, they can all be winners. When we go places together - the oldest is the leader - she carries the money and shares it with the others. She does not like being the leader - stiff shit ? Some people just have bad luck. Where we live there is no university - they might all end-up in Albury sharing a house together with the other 3 kids in their family.