I am of the opinion that something is wrong if the spacer cannot be easily fitted by hand.
In the case of my Atlas, the spacer could always be fitted with the fingers, but the last time I removed the rear wheel for new bearings and brakes, I found that I lacked over 1/8 inch to get the spacer in place. After a diligent investigation, I found the left swing arm tube had a bow in it by laying a straight edge along the inside of the arm. When the bow was removed, the spacer went right in.
The spread between the swing arms should measure 7.9 inches for an Featherbed, and the Commando is a tad over 8 inches, the exact value of which someone can give. If you do not have the required space, check for a bow in the swing arm tubes. If the spread is correct, but the spacer will not easily go in, check for proper assembly of the bearings and internal spacer, as well as the speedo drive top hat bushing.
Slick